Question #174: Dating secrets of THE TERRIFYINGLY AMAZING


Captain Amazing is more like it.

Originally posted on Captain Awkward:

Dear Captain Awkward,

I am a twenty-five-year-old introverted, socially-awkward, geeky fat girl who has never been kissed. I feel weird about this, because it feels like there is something terribly wrong with me, and all of my friends are way more experienced than I am.

I don’t really know if I have the energy for a relationship right now, and have had terrible luck in dating — mostly I end up meeting guys who have fetishes for inexperience or fatness or smart ladies, and I am the only fat/virgin/geek girl they ever met, and they MUST HAVE ME or they will be ALONE FOREVER! and they tell me that clearly they are the only person who could ever like me anyway, and then I block them on AIM and don’t answer their calls. Or people who I am into are clearly not into me, and if they’re nice about it…

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Meet our Readers: Alicia Swiz



Originally posted on That's All She Wrote!:

Our August lineup continues with the boundlessly energetic Alicia Swiz.

Alicia writes and talks and reads out loud. Sometimes it’s funny, sometimes it’s not. Find her out and about in Chicago or on the internet at PopGoesAlicia.

Come to Swim Cafe on Sunday, August 11th to hear Alicia and the rest of our fabulous lineup.  Doors open at 7:30, stories start at 8.


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A Girls’ Guide to Slut-Shaming At The Movies


A very brief history…

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

If you grew up in America chances are you’ve been called a slut or called someone a slut. Maybe both. And if you grew up watching movies, as I did, you have been inscribed with images that encourage a slut shaming mentality. Slut shaming is rooted in conventional (biblical) wisdom that values a woman for her purity and deference to male sexual desires as opposed to supporting a woman’s choice to be sexual active in any way and with anyone she pleases. It’s the difference between treating someone as a sexual being versus a sexual object. We all know the difference between a being and an object, right?

In Hollywood films, slut shaming most commonly appears in the form of punishment of the character, like in every horror movie ever made where as soon as a girl has sex she dies, or an overall positioning of the character as bad…

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An Open Letter To Vice Magazine

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

Dear Vice Magazine Editorial Staff,

What. The. F*ck.

Oh, excuse me. Allow me to clarify.

What the f*ck were you thinking publishing a “fashion” spread that portrays the suicides of seven innovative female authors in your 2013 Women in Fiction issue? For one thing, why even have a fashion pictorial in an issue dedicated to celebrating women’s achievements in literature, especially without any mention of their contributions? Because reading is boring and women’s intelligence is inconsequential. You don’t expect us to actually sell a magazine based on content, do you?

More importantly, what the f*ck kind of message do you think this sends to: Young women? When I grow up, I want to kill myself. Female writers? You may be talented and even successful but your legacy will be not your contribution rather your demise. Women contemplating suicide?* Go ahead and do it – suicide is so stylish! Those who…

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