If you grew up in America chances are you’ve been called a slut or called someone a slut. Maybe both. And if you grew up watching movies, as I did, you have been inscribed with images that encourage a slut shaming mentality. Slut shaming is rooted in conventional (biblical) wisdom that values a woman for her purity and deference to male sexual desires as opposed to supporting a woman’s choice to be sexual active in any way and with anyone she pleases.
Dear Vice Magazine Editorial Staff,
What. The. F*ck.
Oh, excuse me. Allow me to clarify.
What the f*ck were you thinking publishing a “fashion” spread that portrays the suicides of seven innovative female authors in your 2013 Women in Fiction issue? For one thing, why even have a fashion pictorial in an issue dedicated to celebrating women’s achievements in literature, especially without any mention of their contributions?
The first five things I will do to get over you:
1. Make a mixtape of songs that I love that remind me of you or us or whatever this is and was. I will listen to it over and over until they are just songs again.
2. Delete all your text messages and pictures from my phone. The pictures I will keep the texts messages I won’t.
3. Block you on Facebook hoping that if I go away maybe you will notice. Also, so I don’t even have the option to obsessively check your page.
4. Talk about it and you. All the fucking time and to anyone who will listen. Ugh.
5. Date someone else, make out with someone else or, at the very least create another OK Cupid profile. UGH.
The next five things I will do to get over you:
1. Stop counting the days since we last saw each other.
2. Stop counting the days since we last spoke.
3. Stop counting the days since you last called.
4. Stop counting the days since your last text.
5. Stop counting on you.
Five things you did that hurt me:
1. Stopped calling.
2. Stopped texting.
3. Pretended to care.
4. Broke your word.
5. Broke my heart.
Five things I won’t do again:
Five things I will definitely do again:
1. Get so excited about the possibility of love that I see the best in someone.
2. Trust my feelings. Next time, I’ll trust them more than you.
3. Express myself openly and honestly, even when I am scared of the consequences.
4. Believe in love.
5. Whatever it takes.